Get a Sexier Bedroom in 5 Steps!

Did you know that taking the time to make your bedroom sexier could have a direct impact on the fun that you experience in the boudoir? Wondering how? Read on, pleasure seeker!

I’m about to let you in on a hack that I rely on to bring some feminine juice into my busy life. And, seriously, I need all the help I can get when it comes to pleasure. I’m a busy entrepreneur and homeschooling mum, step-mum, and fur-mum. I’ve tried all the tricks in the book, and this one works for me. I’m going to tell you how to create your very own, personalised Pleasure Nest in 5 straightforward steps!

Now, perhaps that phrase has conjured visions of Parisian Boudoirs and overpowering Eau de Parfum… but don’t panic that’s not what I mean. Unless, that idea gets you going, of course!

How to make your bedroom sexier!

We both know that in your busy life it’s hard to carve out time for pleasure. But, if you carve out a physical space for pleasure, you’re already halfway there. A Pleasure Nest is just that. An environment that you design to look good so that it can support you in feeling good. A mini sanctuary that you build with intention, which is available for you to slide into any time you need comfort. 

This space will help you to feel relaxed so that you can be vulnerable, release your inhibitions and explore your desire. It can start as a simple cushion in the corner of your bedroom – and it can develop into something quite magnificent! 

You get to choose your own vibe… what do you want to feel? Tune into that and then make choices to nourish YOU. This post is here to give you some suggestions to get started, with 5 steps to make your bedroom sexier!

Step 1: Remove the visual distractions

Start by taking a look around your chosen space and be honest! Does the environment inspire you? What are the glaringly obvious things that need changing? What can you change right now? 

You’d be surprised at what you can achieve with zero budget. The first thing to do is ditch the things that bring the juiciness levels of your space down!

  • Piles of dirty clothes – out of here!
  • Kids toys – buh bye!
  • Piles of paperwork – no thanks!
  • Clutter – yikes! 
  • Things that remind you of work – hide them in a cupboard!
  • How about photos of your kids? It might sound a bit controversial – but do you really want to see your kids’ smiley faces in your pleasure den? Why not shift those to another space so that you can make this space all about you (and your lover if you have one).

Remove anything that reminds you of your to-do list and things waiting to be done.

Step 2: Tech-free Zone

Things that go beep in the night? Those glowing devices love to distract you and add to your stress! How do you feel about making your Pleasure Nest a technology-free space? No phone, no laptop, no TV. An exception to the rule is a speaker that you can use to play your favourite music – but more on that in a second.

Of course, sex-tech (like vibrators) is a whole other story. Keep your toys and lube close to the bed – ideally within arms reach so that you can grab them without having to leave the action.

Step 3: Spoil Yourself

So, now you have a blank canvas. What can you bring into your space to elevate the vibe? You can start by gathering things from around your home. Here are some things to consider…

  • Lighting – Try adding some soft lighting to your pleasure nest – candles and lamps can be flattering and relaxing. 
  • Photos – How do you feel about adding inspiring pictures of you, your lover, or beautiful memories that make you smile
  • Furniture – Could you move the furniture to make your Pleasure Nest feel special? Bring in a chair or chaise! 
  • Soft furnishings – Here’s where you can let your imagination run wild! How can you make your nest super soft and cosy? What bedding might you add? Or perhaps piles of pillows, cushions, and blankets. Make your nest so comfy that you just melt into it with a big smile on your face!

Step 4: Appeal to Your Senses

As your Pleasure Nest starts to take shape don’t forget to make choices that will appeal to your senses. Keep the following five ideas in mind to make your space a personal sensual playground!

  1. Touch: How can you bring in textures that appeal to you? What kinds of fabrics, sheets or even wallpaper could you use?
  2. Sight: 
    1. What colour palette appeals to you? Soft and muted? Bold, jewel colours? Clean and simple white? How about artwork? This can include objects, paintings, and more. 
    2. Consider a full-length mirror so that you can see your body – as you move, while you wear lingerie, while you’re naked – and even while you’re having sex. It can really help you to see yourself as a sexual person, which is powerful if you have any kind of mental disconnect. 
  3. Sound: Don’t overlook the power of music to turn you on and impact your mood! You can include instruments in your Pleasure Nest – as well as a speaker connected to your favourite playlist.
  4. Smell: Scent is a powerful aphrodisiac – some experts think it’s the most powerful of all. You can harness scent in your nest with fragrant flowers, perfume, essential oils, incense, and scented massage oils. Why not choose a signature bedroom scent that you can use as an anchor into your sexuality. Use this scent only when sexy times are unfolding and it will create a mental trigger – a shortcut to your arousal.  
  5. Taste: Why not add a bowl of delicious snacks like fruit, nuts, and chocolate drops? This is your space – you get to call the shots!

Step 5: Put a lock on the door!

If you live with anyone else – kids, friends, family – this is essential. It will help you to relax and feel uninhibited in your environment. The quality of your sexual encounters and the satisfaction that you experience will be heightened by the feeling of safety that a locked door provides!!


It’s actually quite simple to make your bedroom sexier – and this space sets the scene for the fun adventures and experiences you are opening yourself up to. A beautiful setting, that is aligned with your desires, and conducive to sex will support you in feeling comfortable and safe – as well as free to unleash your true sexuality. 

And this can be a fun project to immerse yourself in. You’ll soon find that the positive impact of this stress-free haven spreads throughout your life.

Creating your boudoir is a chance to express yourself, to make your own rules, and to prioritise your pleasure – all things that are greatly lacking in our daily lives! And as you can see it doesn’t have to be complicated. 

I hope you’re feeling inspired to create a rejuvenating space that you can plug into any time you need to recharge! Let me know in the comments!

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