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How to Have Great Doggy Style Sex: 9 Tips to Make It Even Hotter!

Lisa Welsh
Lisa Welsh

Podcaster
Sexual Health & Pleasure Educator
Media Liaison for the World Association for Sexual Health

Are you struggling to find the right rhythm with doggy style? 

Then stick around for my top tips to help make doggy style even hotter and unlock a new world of pleasure and intimacy with your partner. 

Get ready to say goodbye to uncertainty and hello to deeper connection and penetration as you master the art of doggy style and make your doggy dreams come true. 

In this article, I’ll cover how to get comfortable, get the right height and angle, find the right rhythm, boost intimacy, and different positions and pleasure enhancements. 

Watch my video on Doggy Style right here.

A Note of Language

Before we get into the juicy deets and doggy style tips, I want to give a quick word on language. I’ll use the terms’ man’ and ‘woman,’ ‘he’ and ‘she’ throughout this article for ease and to help it flow better. 

But when I say ‘woman,’ I mean anybody who is being penetrated and is in a more passive position. And when I say ‘man’ or ‘he,’ then I mean the person who’s penetrating. Of course, that could suggest they’re using a penis, a sex toy such as a dildo, or fingers.

What is “Doggy Style” Sex? 

Doggy style is a prevalent sex position where the receiving partner is on all fours and the penetrating partner is entering them from behind. 

This style allows for deeper penetration and can be pretty intense, so it’s important to make sure that you have consent covered and that there’s enough foreplay so the vagina is ready and wanting to be penetrated. 

alt: Illustration of the doggy style sex position

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Tips to Have Great Doggy Style Sex

Below are some of my top tips for having INSANELY good doggy style sex.

Tip 1: Get Comfortable

This tip sounds basic. But, without a doubt, it’s the most crucial. You need to get into a comfortable position that you can maintain for a prolonged period.

One of the biggest concerns during doggy style is that the penis can sometimes go too deep and hit the cervix, causing discomfort or pain for the woman. We want to avoid this.

For many people, both partners need to have control over the penetration depth. This can be achieved by communicating with each other and adjusting the height and depth of thrusting.

The woman can also modify the height of her vaginal entrance by opening or closing her legs, allowing more control over the penetration depth.

From the basic doggy style position, the man can kneel behind the woman while she’s on all fours. If being on the knees is uncomfortable for the man, he can stand next to the bed and enter from that position. Both partners need to find a comfortable position where they can maintain thrusting.

Using pillows or cushions can also help maintain the position and provide support. Placing pillows under the woman’s stomach or knees can help create a slight arch in her back, bringing the vaginal entrance up and open. Similarly, cushions under the man’s knees can provide comfort and support during the act.

By practising depth control and open communication, partners can enhance their experience during doggy style and ensure a more pleasurable and enjoyable sexual encounter.

Another suggestion is to try Ohnut rings, which are silicone rings that you place at the base of the shaft of the penis. They just prevent the penis from entering fully in and still provide stimulation around the shaft.

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Tip 2: Get the Right Angle

So now we’ve spoken about height and depth. But the angle is everything. 

If you want to become an absolute master at doggy style, then listen up. You don’t want to simply be thrusting in and out. The delicious nerve endings are on the upper wall of the vagina. 

Now with doggy style, this is the other way around. So, you want to stimulate the lower side (which is still the upper wall of the vagina) in this position. That means you need to be angling yourself so that the penis is facing slightly down.

By doing so, you’ll hit the G-Spot. And at the back of the vagina, you’ll also stimulate the A-Spot. 

alt: Illustration of the female g-spot and a-spot

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The A-Spot is positioned beneath the cervix. So, a super quick note, the cervix is the neck of the womb. It sits right at the very back of the vagina. If you put in your middle finger, you might be able to feel it. It kind of feels wobbly like the tip of your nose. 

Now, moving beyond the cervix to this area, you’ll find the A-Spot. So, that’s what you’re aiming for with your penis and dragging along the upper wall of the vagina. This is going to feel amazing and is how you could potentially unlock vaginal orgasms.

So, there are many ways to change the angle of penetration to ensure that both of you are having a wonderful time doing doggy style. 

  • For the woman, you can change your angle by arching your back more, rounding your back a little, or stretching your upper body out. By moving around with your body, you can ensure you’re getting the stimulation in the area that feels best for you. You can also actively push back against the penis if you want deeper penetration, although this can get tricky if you’re both trying to move simultaneously.
  • The man can alter the angle by leaning forwards, which will make the penis go downwards, or leaning back, which may tip it upwards. So, you might find yourself doing a bit of a wave position because you want the penis to go down and up a little. This is going to take some practice to get the whole flowing motion right. You can also hold on to your partner’s waist or bum and manoeuvre them to help you get the movement you desire.

Tip 3: Get the Rhythm Right

One of my best suggestions for getting the rhythm right is to put on some music because just like music can make or break an experience, so can rhythm and pacing when it comes to doggy.

Imagine some big orchestrated piece. You’ll start gently and slowly, maybe with shallow thrusts and slower movements and gradually increasing the speed and intensity. The man needs to pay attention to his partner’s body language and her sounds. 

  • Do you need to make any adjustments? 
  • Are you hitting the right spots? 
  • Could you add some lubricant

Remember to ask her, “Does this feel good?” “Is that too deep?” “How can I make this better for you?”. 

And, when you feel that you’re both comfortable and maybe your breathing is getting heavier and she’s starting to make pleasurable noises, you can look at moving faster. 

Tip 4: Incorporate Some Elements of Intimacy

Something that puts people off of doggy style is the lack of connection. 

It can feel a bit impersonal because it’s difficult to make eye contact. And if intimacy is really important to you during intercourse, there’s no reason why you can’t look over your shoulder and make eye contact or take breaks for moments of intimacy. 

alt: Illustration of the doggy style sex position with eye contact

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You can bring your bodies close together or incorporate touches or stroking of the back. You could also have the woman come up and then you can kiss in this position before she goes back down. Again, taking little breaks for intimate connection can feel really good.

Tip 5: Vary the Positions

So we’ve already spoken about being on all fours, and the fact is there are multiple different positions and variations just in that alone. But, you can try some other positions if you want to ride your woman and take her from behind.

One option is the sitting position. In this position, the man will be sitting on a chair while the woman lowers herself down by holding onto the man’s outstretched arms and allowing him to enter her from there. 

Now from here, the woman can move up and down, or the man can thrust up and down. See what feels most comfortable and why not retake turns? You can adjust the pace, the depth, and the angle to make it feel delicious.

The next position you can try is lying down or flat doggy. This one is great because it allows a lot of closeness and skin-to-skin contact. Now, the woman will be lying face down with her legs slightly open and her back arched slightly to enable upwards movement that allows the penis to enter. 

Flat Doggy Style Sex Position

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It’s great to add pillows under the pelvis here to help with that, and from this position, the man will enter from behind and lie on top of her, supporting his weight with his arms. Whatever feels good for the two of you. 

This one can really feel like a lovely hug. It’s like spooning but with the spoon stacked on top of each other. Flat doggy can be excellent for kissing and whispering because the man’s mouth will be right there by her ear. 

And if you’re feeling more adventurous, you can also try doggy style standing. This is like the yoga position downward dog. So, the woman is going to make an upside-down V with her body, hands flat on the floor and feet behind her while the man comes and enters from behind. 

alt: Illustration of the standing doggy style sex position

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She might need to bend her legs to get the right height for the man to enter comfortably. Then he can hold on to her hips and thrust from there. 

Instead of going all out downward dog, you can also do doggy position while standing by holding on to something like a piece of furniture or the kitchen counter. 

Tip 6: Add Clitoral Stimulation

Most women don’t experience vaginal orgasms (meaning orgasms caused purely by penetration). In fact, according to a study released on PubMed, only 21%–30% of women experience orgasm without additional stimulation. 

This means many women need additional clitoral stimulation in order to come. 

So, while you’re doing doggy style, the woman can use one of her own hands if she can prop up with the other one to stimulate her clitoris. Either with her hand or a vibrator. 

Or, when you’re trying the lying down doggy style (mentioned earlier), you can position a vibrator underneath the clitoris against the vulva. 

As the man is thrusting in and out, that’ll push her against the vibrator and can feel delicious. If possible, he can even reach around and stimulate her clitoris while thrusting. 

But that’s not the only erogenous zone that’s available😏. The breasts are also right there, and the nipples. And they can be played with, too. 

Again, the woman can either play with her breasts or the man can reach around and grab them. You can even hold on to them. It does depend on the length of the bodies that are involved. 

Oh, and you know what else is right there?

The woman’s butt. A lot of people love to incorporate butt stimulation during doggy style. 

And, of course, the man gets a fabulous view of exactly what’s going on down there. So why not add lube and incorporate a butt plug if that’s something you’ve used before, or anal beads, a dildo, or a finger? This can intensify her orgasm. 

Speaking of orgasms, learn how to give her an amazing orgasm with my complete guide

Tip 7: Mid-Play 

Foreplay is epic. 

But why not stop in the middle of the action to stimulate more? 

Have you ever tried oral in doggy? That can be divine, unexpected, and feel amazing. You only need to remove the penis from the vagina and put the mouth there instead. 

And earlier, I mentioned the visuals for the men and how they get that gorgeous view of the butt and vulva. Well, you can also incorporate visuals for her by putting a mirror there

It can be exciting to see yourself actually receiving pleasure and see how you look while being thoroughly pleasured😉. 

Tip 8: Add Sensory Stimulation

Another of my favourite enhancements to make doggy style super hot is adding sensory stimulation. So the man can put some loving attention on her back with strokes, tickles, and scratches. Maybe even a slight drag of a flogger across her back. 

Creativity is key and you could definitely make doggy style a little kinky. 

There are many things that you can do to up the BDSM-ante. Of course, with consent, conversations, and safe words in place, you can try a little bit of light hair-pulling. When you’re hair-pulling, you want to grab a lot of hair from the roots and rest your hands on the top of her back. 

You can also try pulling her hands behind her, which brings in a form of control. Prohibiting her movement can feel hot and help her get into that submissive space. Or, you can put a hand on her head and gently push her down against the mattress. 

In consensual play, control can be really sexy. And if you like that vibe, you can slightly up the ante by putting your hand around her neck. From there, you can also move her slightly as you go.

Tip 9: Add a Little Light Spanking

How about incorporating some spanking into the mix? 

After all, you have her butt right there. You can use your hand or another impact play tool that you’re both comfortable and familiar with. 

I don’t recommend this as the first time or place to try impact play, but if you already enjoy that, you can incorporate it. 

You can check out my YouTube video about spanking for couples (even if you’re a beginner).

Get Your Doggy Style On 

I’ve shared many tips to help you make doggy style super hot. 

Remember, you don’t have to try them all at once, but having these ideas in your toolkit will help prevent the doggy style from being basic and boring. Instead, it’ll make it exciting, creative and build anticipation because you won’t know what’s coming next.

Now at this point of the article, you might wonder, is doggy style the best sex position for you? Well, I have you covered because I have another article that covers five of the hottest sex positions that you’ve probably never tried (or even heard of before). 

And, if you’d really like to intensify things in the bedroom and ignite the passion in your relationship, check out Beducated. Happy exploring😉.

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