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How to Give AMAZING Head: Top Tips From a Sex Educator

Lisa Welsh
Lisa Welsh

Sexual Health & Pleasure Educator
Media Liaison for the World Association for Sexual Health

Does the thought of giving a blowjob intimidate you? 

Do you feel awkward? Nervous? Or, perhaps even inexperienced in giving your partner a proper BJ that’ll blow their mind — and their cock😉? 

Well, you’re not alone! Millions — and I do mean millions of women worldwide are in the same boat as you. In fact, only 28% of women find giving blowjobs very pleasurable.  

Being a sex educator, I’ve had countless women come up to me for advice on giving amazing head.  

Now, I want you to imagine for a moment what it would be like to actually feel excited about jumping into bed with your partner and getting your mouth on his penis…

Because that’s precisely how you’ll feel after reading this article. 

In this article, I’ll give you 12 top tips you can follow to explode the passion in your bedroom and have your partner gasping for breath while you go down on them. 

Top 12 tips to give amazing head

Here’s the thing… 

Giving an oral blowjob doesn’t have to be complicated. 

You don’t need to implement tonnes of fancy tricks and tools to make your partner experience ultimate bliss under the spell of your seductive tongue. 

All you need to do is implement these simple tips I’m about to share with you. 

I promise it’ll make a world of difference. 

So, without further ado, let’s jump right in!

1. Turn YOURSELF on first

This is the fundamental first step that many people skip — which is a BIG mistake!

Believe it or not, your partner can sense your excitement. And let me tell you, authentic expression is hot as hell.

When your partner sees you’re turned on, confident, and ready, this will push their gears into motion and open their mind and body to experience the pleasure you’re about to give them. 

On the contrary, if you’re not in the mood and are solely doing it because you feel like you have to, your partner will notice — immediately putting a damper on his mood. 

That’s why it’s essential to get yourself turned on BEFORE you start touching, licking, or sucking him. 

There are many ways you can achieve this. Some examples include:

  • Having a super hot makeout session beforehand.
  • Touching yourself in front of him. 
  • Or, better yet, pull out the vibrator and rub your nipples and clit with it, so your partner can witness your growing arousal.

2. Make sure his penis is super wet

When it comes to sex, penises, and vulvas — the wetter, the better, am I right? 

The same rule applies to blowjobs. Make sure your partner’s penis is really wet. You can opt for spit, but lube is even better. 


Because not only will it keep everything slippery, but it’ll also avoid a dry mouth and give you the chance to remove your mouth when your jaw gets tired so you can continue with your hands. 

And, as if things couldn’t get any better, you can even try flavoured lube. Sucking a penis that tastes like cherries is one of the joys of our modern oral sex add-ons. Just be sure to keep it away from the opening of his penis.

alt: image of woman putting a cherry into her mouth

3. Worship his cock

Oral sex isn’t just about what you do physically but also about what you do mentally and emotionally. 

Stroking your partner’s ego by telling them that they have a great cock will give them a confidence boost and build up a more intense orgasm. 

Here’s the thing… 

There’s no such thing as a perfect penis. Yet, many men are conscious of how their cock looks and how YOU see it. 

Your partner wants you to tell them what you think of their penis. More specifically, they want DETAILED feedback on their penis. 

This is how you do it…

Look at his penis while you’re stroking it. Admire it with your words by saying things like: 

  • I’d love to ride it all day long. 
  • You have such a great cock. 
  • Your cock veins are super sexy. 
  • I’ve never seen a dick so majestic. 

If you’re unsure about the words you want to use, you can simply gaze at it and show him that you appreciate it. 

4. Use your tongue and breath

Your tongue is arguably one of — if not the most important gadget you can use to give mind-blowing blowjobs. 

Not only is it wet and flexible, but its texture also creates incredible friction on your partner’s cock when you lick or suck it. 

alt: image of a woman licking her lips

You can start by licking his penis head, shaft, and balls in seductive strokes before taking his entire penis in your mouth. Then, once he’s in your mouth, you can swirl your tongue around him while sucking and moving your head up and down. 

I promise he’ll love it! 

Then, kick it up a notch by incorporating your breath into the mix. Every now and again, you can take his cock in your hands and continue stroking while blowing on him with your breath. But keep it short and minimal as you don’t want to chase away his climax.  

5. Use your hands

Ever heard the myth that the “ideal” blowjob is hands-free? 

Well, allow me to break that myth once and for all. 

You see, adding your hands to the mix can intensify your partner’s pleasure tenfold. This is because you’ll overload his “feeling” senses with delicious friction from multiple sources — instead of just your mouth. 

  • Stroke the base of his dick while sucking and licking the tip. 
  • Play with his balls by gently tugging, gripping or sucking them.
  • Massage his balls with your hand while licking him from base to tip.  

Also, looking past his penis, you can stroke your hands over other parts of his body, such as his chest and thighs, as you suck him deep into your mouth. All of the touching will overwhelm him — in a good way😉 — and end up giving him more intense orgasms.

6. Be cautious with your teeth

Teeth can be tricky when it comes to giving great head. Too much can hurt him. But, too little can take away some of the delectable added friction he needs to intensify the experience.

alt: image of sharp teeth

So, what can you do? 

Your best bet would be to find a balance. Use your teeth — but sparingly.

Only scrape your teeth against his flesh as opposed to biting into it.  

You can avoid using too much teeth by: 

  • Wrapping your lips around your teeth as a barrier. 
  • Staying close to the tip and around the head while letting your hand take care of the base. 
  • Not sucking too hard since this will cause your teeth to come into contact with his flesh.   

7. Massage the Perineum

There are loads of pleasure spots for you to explore and stimulate aside from your partner’s penis and balls. 

One that I recommend you get intimately acquainted with is the Perineum — the area between his anus and scrotum. 

This spot is particularly sensitive due to all the nerve endings. You’ll immensely intensify his pleasure by giving this area extra attention and applying pressure while licking and sucking his cock. 

Alternatively, you can also apply pressure to this spot with your tongue while you stroke his shaft with your hand.

8. Incorporate butt play

Look… Butt play isn’t for everyone. 

However, if your partner is open to the idea, there’s a good chance he’ll end up loving it. 

Why? Well, in the same way that the Perineum has a lot of nerve endings, so does the anus. By stroking those nerve endings with your finger or anal toys, your partner will experience surges of pleasure. 

This is especially true if you give him a blowjob while simultaneously massaging his anus walls.

Keep in mind that there are different types and levels of anal play. Start slowly and work your way up as you learn what he enjoys. 

alt: image of a butt plug for anal play

Learn about excellent butt play toys such as anal beads, as well as cock rings and other types of sex toys in my Top Fifty Shades of Grey Toys article. 

9. Be vocal

Moans, gasps, and groans are the language of lust and desire. 

Making sounds while you go down on him will get him hot and grunting in pleasure. 

Remember, your partner wants you to enjoy the experience, too, and the only way he’ll know is if you express how the situation affects you. 

Your sounds will let him know you’re enjoying his cock. This will give him the confidence boost he needs — allowing him to let go of all thoughts and FEEL you around him. 

10. Try pleasure mapping

Sexual pleasure mapping is one of the best ways to discover your partner’s triggers and sweet spots. 

By paying attention to his body language and reactions while you’re touching, licking, and sucking him, you’ll start to “map out” his body and discover which spots are particularly pleasurable for him. 

  • Watch his face 
  • Feel his muscles
  • Hear his breathing

If he’s writhing, grabbing your hair, or gasping for breath, it’s a sure sign what you’re doing is blowing him away. 

alt: image of woman touching man

Mapping out his sweet spots will also help you intensify his pleasure with all future blowjobs since you’ll know exactly where to touch and what he likes most.

11. Appeal to ALL his senses

Instead of just focusing on the blowjob, try incorporating his other senses as well. Putting his senses in overdrive will make the experience much more intense. 

Ways you can do this are to wear his favourite perfume, maintain eye contact throughout, play sexy or intimate music in the background, and feed him a strawberry dipped in chocolate. 

This is your chance to get really creative. 

You can even try incorporating dirty talk into the mix. Speak to him with naughty words during stimulation. All of these senses will put the guy in overdrive.  

12. Try different positions

While the kneeling-in-front position is often the first position people think of when they hear the word “blowjob”, you don’t have to stick to it if you don’t want to. 

There are plenty of other positions you can try, such as sixty-nine, prop engine, loveseat wishbone, and many more. 

That being said, the easiest positions are usually the best since you can suck him off in a way that’s comfortable for you and him. 

Ready to bring your blowjob a-game?

Now that you know how to give amazing head, you can go ahead and implement some or all of the tips mentioned above. 

I suggest trying different tips on separate occasions until you find a mix that your partner absolutely loves. 

Spicing up your sex life doesn’t have to be hard. It’s my mission to help YOU and your partner experience more fun and passion between the sheets than ever before. 

Want to learn even more about pleasuring your man with your mouth – using tested and true methods? The check out this Beducated course for FREE! It’ll make you a BJ guru with 9 awesome fellatio techniques and even a lesson on deep-throating!

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