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5 Sexy Date Night Ideas (From a Pleasure Coach)

Lisa Welsh
Lisa Welsh

Podcaster
Sexual Health & Pleasure Educator
Media Liaison for the World Association for Sexual Health

Tired of boring and monotonous date nights that do nothing for your sex life or relationship? 

Whether you’re married or have been in a relationship for a while, things can get a bit stale and boring if you don’t put effort into keeping the spark ignited💥.

That’s where sexy date nights can help bring up the heat and reignite the passion in your relationship. 

This article is filled with inspiration for you. Inside, I’ll help you effortlessly infuse excitement and sensuality back into your relationship by giving you my top five sexy date night ideas. This way, your regular Wednesday nights can feel like memory-making adventures for two. 

And if you love these ideas that I’ll be sharing, then stick around because I’m going to introduce my brand new subscription service for people who want fresh and innovative sexy date night ideas delivered to their inbox every single week.

Let’s Address the Elephant in the Room

Now, if you’re wondering, “Aren’t scheduled sex dates boring?” I’m just going to tell you, hell no! 

They can be the key to becoming lovers again instead of roommates. And they can even be the answer to sexless marriages. 

Because in our busy, hectic lives, it’s easy to lose our connection with our partners. Work, chores, kids — everything else takes priority, and it’s easy to put pleasure at the bottom of the pile. 

So, it’s crucial for partners to take quality time out for each other, to build excitement, intimacy, trust, connection, closeness, and have so much fun. You know, some stress-free adult playtime together😉.

Frequent sex dates won’t only bring you closer in your relationship, but regular sex with your partner has also proven to have several health benefits and increase your quality of life. 

And don’t worry. These ideas aren’t your regular movie-meal-missionary style dates. These are meant to be more adventurous and saucy😍.

So, are you ready? Let’s dive in. 

1. Mystery Date

This one will require a little bit of planning, but trust me — it’s worth it. 

A mystery date really starts to get the anticipation going. And the sexual anticipation and tension are what make the lovemaking super hot. 

Here’s what you do: 

  • You’re going to plan a night out or in, but you won’t give any details to your partner. All they know is the date and time. As the date nears, the thrill and excitement will build up. And the idea in their mind of what will happen will boost their horniness level and get them thinking about you.
  • Then, you’re going to choose an inherently romantic location. This could be in your lounge with a private dance lesson, a candlelit dinner in your favourite restaurant, live music, or a picnic in a tent in your garden. All that matters is that you keep quiet about all the details until the last minute.  
alt: Couple dancing on a date
  • And after the date, you can always choose to up the ante by completing the sensual surprise by revealing some sexy lingerie or offering a sensual massage.

2. Sensual Cooking Class

Of course, food and romance have always gone hand in hand, but this isn’t just any cooking class. 

You’re going to choose foods that are considered aphrodisiacs — things like artichokes, asparagus, figs, oysters, chocolate, strawberries, or something that you both just really enjoy.

And you’re going to make the act of preparing this food sensual. 

  • Put on music as you cook. 
  • Wear something that makes you feel sexy. 
  • Offer your partner little tastes as you cook. Feed each other, and savour the flavours. 

Bring all your senses on board — smell, the sound of cooking, the tastes, the texture. 

alt: Couple cooking together

This sensual cooking class is followed by enjoying the meal together. No phones in sight. In fact, there should be no phones at all for ANY of these dates. 

Just savour the meal, be connected, play a romantic playlist, and enjoy a glass of wine or drink. Plus, to make it even sexier, you could choose a specific dress code, such as aprons only, lingerie, a sexy dress and suit, or you can choose to be a naked chef😉.

3. Private Movie Night

For this date, you’re going to choose a movie that’s a little bit saucy. Something like “9½ Weeks”, “50 Shades of Gray”, or “Mr. and Mrs. Smith”. 

alt: Couple watching a movie together

Then, create some kind of boudoir space. Put out cushions and blankets to make it cosy, add your favourite movie snacks, a beverage or two, and some comfy and accessible clothes. 

The goal is to get cosy, intimate and relaxed with a movie that can be slightly more visually tantalizing and suggestive. 

Allow intimacy to unfold in any way it might naturally. Allow your creativity and sensuality to take over here. 

4. Saucy Couples Game 

The next sexy date idea is to try a saucy couples game night. Something like “Monogamy”, “Truth or Dare”, or “Strip Poker”. You could even spice up “Twister” or a dice game. 

alt: Poker cards for sexy game night

The aim here is fun and playful competition. You can incorporate subtle touches and maybe even add a strip element if you’re comfortable. 

Choose the rules beforehand so you’re comfortable with what you’ve agreed to. This is a fun way to let things naturally unfold. The main aim of this sexy date idea is to connect, have fun, and be present.

5. Bedroom Makeover

Here, you’re going to plan a sexy staycation in your room, transforming the space into a romantic sanctuary. 

Hide pictures of the kids, put the washing away in the cupboard, put out rose petals, and set the mood with music and plush bedding. Include massage oil, a platter of sexy snacks, and your favourite beverage. 

alt: Sexy bedroom

This is a no-phones-allowed date, and you’ll hang out together in this romantic setting and see what you both feel in the mood for. 

Start with some conversation. Perhaps you can incorporate eye gazing, a little kiss, a stroke, words of appreciation, or a nibble on the earlobe. 

This can bring freshness to your everyday surroundings and your relationship, boosting intimacy and fun.

Remember, the key with these sexy and romantic date night ideas is to be present, communicate, and, most of all, have fun. 

Want More Sexy Date Ideas to Bring Up the Heat in Your Relationship? 

If you love these ideas, you will adore my brand-new subscription service. 

It’s called the Sexy Date Nights Weekly Subscription and is only $9 per month! 

When you sign up, you’ll receive weekly sexy date plans fully mapped out by yours truly. I include tips on getting your partner on board and a video explainer for every date to explain how it works. 

These are hassle-free, creative, and definitely sensual ideas that’ll bring back the spark and make you feel like you’re in the honeymoon phase of your relationship again. 

I’ll also be weaving in specific tips and techniques to boost your sexual competence, which helps boost your sexual confidence. That’s the overall aim — to boost your confidence to unleash your inner sex appeal and have loads of fun in the bedroom.

❌ No more resorting to the same old dinner and movie. 

❌ No more scouring the internet for overwhelming options. 

This is for you, even if you’re juggling a tight schedule, financial constraints, body insecurities, and exhaustion from daily life. Parents, I made this with you in mind. 

Here’s a recap of what you get: 

  • You’ll get one thoughtfully planned sexy date night every Wednesday in your inbox. 
  • When you sign up, you’ll also get a Kickstarter date with suggestions for sexual activities to start conversations and explore together.
  • Each date plan comes with a video explainer by me, telling you exactly what to expect, how to prepare, care, and what pitfalls to avoid. 
  • Additional tips and tricks are included. 
  • Plus, there’s a bunch of date plans already loaded on your dashboard to inspire you right away.
  • I’ll also sneak in some cheat sheets to help you overcome common obstacles to pleasure.

I understand your challenges. I’ve been divorced and remarried with three teenage sons and three dogs. 

I’m busy with a career, so I know how difficult it can be. And, yep, I deal with body insecurity too. So I know it’s tough to find time for intimacy, but it’s so worth it. It’s important to rekindle that spark, keep the excitement going, and keep things novel. 

Novelty and variety are the spice of life. Building intimacy and closeness supports your bedroom life, your long-term partnership, your family, and beyond. 

This stuff really matters.

Don’t wait. Start your journey of unforgettable, sexy dates today!

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